I got your trophy right here
So. I don't know if it's because I got added to a couple of those Facebook shopping groups, or because I peruse my Instagram "popular" feed quite a bit - but I've been seeing these "Trophy Wife" tanks/tees everywhere.
And my initial reaction to it was *eyeroll*, whateverrrr, dude. But, the more I think about it, I really detest them. I'll tell you why.
First, you need to know that I'm not a super-duper feminist. I mean, not in the sense of, "I hate men! Don't oppress me! Cook your own dinner!" but, I also think the term "Trophy Wife" is super-duper demeaning because I think women are assets, equals - and not possessions. Beyoncé t-shirt break: WHO RUN THE WORLD? GIRLS. And, yes - I realize that perhaps I'm taking these trophy wife tanks a little too seriously, but I see women in these tanks with their dolled-up hair, curled-up false eyelashes and full face of makeup, and I groan and cringe. They're taking this tank top title seriously. (SN: I think the only time these TW tanks would 'work', is if the woman wearing it was all anti-trophy-wife looking - comfy in her sweats with a messy top-bun and zero makeup - holding a toilet brush - because that would at least be funny and more realistic)
Secondly, I don't think it's a cute thing, a cool thing, or a life goal to be a trophy wife. What's a trophy wife, really? A woman who is an accessory, a prize - valued only for her looks. Normally, we never know anything about a trophy wife - we don't know where she's from, how smart she is, her opinion on anything or if she has any aspirations in life other than being a trophy wife, going to the gym and shopping. And, it's not because we don't want to know - we just...don't. And, it seems, trophy wives are significantly younger than their husbands. All of this seems very cliché, I know. But, clichés are clichés for a reason. I don't know if I personally know any trophy wives, but I'm in Orange County, California. I've definitely seen/been around some. It's hilarious.
Aside from the inundation of Trophy Wife apparel, another reason why I blog about this is because a friend sent me this fantastic article, entitled "Is the equal teammate the new trophy wife?" and my absolute favorite portion of the article says this:
I have to believe a woman who has her own ideas, dreams, goals and opinions - and who can not only hold her own in a conversation, but start a conversation - would not wear a Trophy Wife tank top, unless it's part of her pajamas. Or Halloween.
P.s. I have to admit I love the Trophy Husband t shirt, and I don't know why.
Just kidding. I know why.