Those after-baby selfies

"I don't know. I just feel like I should get a one piece, now. I hate my belly."



I nodded, understanding how she felt. Nothing is worse than a fellow mom being all, "hate it?! That belly produced your child and you should be SO PROUD AND SHOW IT OFF ALL THE TIME, MAMA!" Like, can those moms just stop with that preachiness? I personally know my belly hasn't gone back to what it looked like before baby and I'm not ecstatic about it, and I'm not going to pretend to be. Granted, I also haven't been going crazy trying to exercise it 24/7, either. I never really did, anyway. I guess I was just blessed in that department - but now, after baby? Meh. Kind of a different story.

"I got a bikini. I refuse to wear a one piece unless I want to" I said. And, I meant it. I don't think that just because a woman has a baby, that means she has to dress "like a mom." Even in a bathing suit. While some one piece suits are super sexy and stylish, I prefer my tummy to get a little sun and I didn't sign over my right to a bikini when I got pregnant.

I know you've perused Instagram or other newsfeeds and have come across photos and posts of moms proudly showing their extra-skin bellies with/without stretch marks in bikinis (or underwear, which is so weird to me but to each their own). I actually recently saw one where two of the mom's three kids were pulling and twisting her extra skin while she laughed.

And, I admit - I cringed a little...because it looked like it hurt but also because it was just overkill to me.

I mean, I get it. I get that women's bodies are absolutely amazing. We can do things men don't.even.wanna.know.about. And, I get that we have built, nourished, carried and birthed human beings and that is absolutely astounding. And - I know society puts a lot of BS pressure on women to look a certain way post-baby. I'd be lying to you if I said I didn't feel self-conscious or even a little upset that my shorts size is still a size or two above my pre-baby size. But, then it's like *shrug* - too busy to think about this for longer than one nanosecond because there are a million other things to do that are much more interesting than myself. So, I don't really personally understand the desire to take an "I'm proud of thissssssss" social media selfie.

I'd rather write a blog post while O naps, obvi.

But, back to the point. I guess what I'm saying is - if you're a mom, and bathing suit shopping - don't get what you think you have to get. Get what you want. Because, chances are - you'll be at the pool or beach or lake or wherever and having so much fun with your babe(s) that you won't even realize what kind of suit you're wearing.

Those are the best pictures to post, in my opinion. I think a subtle, quiet confidence speaks so much louder.