Peanut butter in public?!

image via cafemom

image via cafemom

Whenever I make a Target run, I always pack a lunch or snack for my busy 20-month-old, because it makes shopping less hectic when he's content sitting in a cart. Sometimes, his lunch includes a PB sandwich, folded in half.

I'm not a germophobe, but I do bring my own disinfectant wipes to wipe down the shopping cart before and after returning it to the cart corral. Because...people are gross. People wipe their noses with their hands, sneeze, cough and so do their kids riding in the cart, including mine. Flu season was awful, so...better safe than sorry. I also realize that by doing this, I'm ensuring that I've removed any grossness and/or peanut butter that lingers on the cart, in case the next user - kid or adult - has an allergy.

A mom was recently shamed and attacked online for giving her daughter a PB sandwich in a Target cart. Apparently, a stranger approached her in the store and when the mom took to the Internet for opinion...the flood gates opened. This mom was called "disgusting", "inconsiderate" and - my personal favorite - "a hillbilly." Here's the thread on Urban Baby. That hillbilly comment came from someone who says she would prefer to feed her child in the car rather than a shopping cart, by the way. Perhaps she also thinks breastfeeding should be done in the bathroom, I don't know.

Anyway, my personal opinion on this is simple - if your child has allergies, and you’re worried about shopping carts, please bring disinfectant wipes and take it upon yourself to make sure the cart is clear for your child. Why are you relying on strangers? Not everyone is going to do what you want in life, and I've seen lots of parents return the carts without cleaning them, so why do you trust that stranger before you didn't have/eat peanut butter? I don't mean to sound harsh, but I do think it just takes some common sense. Yes, I realize allergies can be deadly. So can the flu, especially to children. WIPE DOWN THE CART. So many stores offer wipes at their entrance for this reason.

Now, let's talk about mom-shaming. Stop it. Why do we do this?! This mom was asking for opinions on the topic - not what you think of her as a person or a mother. Honestly. I admit - I've been rather judgy of some moms before I became a mother myself, but once I did - MY GOD. Talk about humility. I repent my past mom-shaming sins, nod my head and high-five you for however you get through the day, mommas. So, I just don’t get the hate and shame. 

No, I don't know what it's like to have a child who has a peanut allergy. And, after hearing about this mom, I wonder what my "reaction" would be if a stranger approached me and my child in a store.

Maybe one day I'll find out.