Crosswalks

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My mom was visiting, and I needed to grab a few things from the grocery store, which happens to be a 3 minute walk/1 minute drive from my house. It was pretty hot and humid out, so I decided to walk - sans toddler - to get what I needed.

The shopping plaza has crosswalks, and there's a sign in it that says "Walk and shop!" or something like that. So, the town tries to foster walkability. That said, 8/10 times I walk there, I have to dodge a car while crossing a crosswalk. This time, I made it there OK with no issues, but on the way back, an older lady literally came within 10 feet of me before she stopped. I looked her dead in the eyes, and what did do?

She waved her hand at me hurriedly, as if to say, "Go! You're in my way!" Like I was a buzzing fly around her head.

I'm telling you. If she wasn't 90 years old, I would have went O-F-F. In fact, I debated telling her what I thought of her obviously emergent trip to STAPLES that could have cost me my life, but when she got out of her SUV and was all hunched over walking into the store, I figured I would just look like a 30-something harassing an elderly woman. I then thought of leaving a note, but I had perishable food, no pen, and again - she was literally 90 years old. Or at least looked it. Frustratingly enough, I had to just swallow my anger, take a deep breath and move on.

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On the walk back home, I got to thinking about what it was that really ticked me off. Was it that she could have hit me? Yes, obviously. But, it was also her reaction to her mistake/carelessness. She didn't mouth "I'm sorry!" or look the least bit humbled. In fact, she looked mad at me - annoyed, and waved me on and out of the way. That's happened to me sooo many times before - with people of alllll different age groups - when I've started crossing in a crosswalk and they have to stop for me (the horror!), and then I'll see their arms waving me on like 'walk faster' or 'OK, I'll let you go, you're welcome, you annoying walker!" and it's like CAN YOU JUST NOT DO THAT?!

I know communication can be difficult when you've got the barrier of a car between you, but it doesn't have to be. Try to smile, say 'sorry!' or 'whoops!' even. Also try to remember that you're also a pedestrian when you step out of your vehicle.

/rant. Have a good day and watch out for humans!

Do you...

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...iron your partner's shirts? I ran a poll on my IG stories and I'm happy to report most of you don't. I'm happy because I don't and now I don't feel bad about it. The truth is, my husband just irons his shirts better than I could.

...check your pizza before tipping the delivery person? I don't, but I feel like it's not a bad idea. Nothing worse than opening a fresh pie and seeing the cheese has shifted all to one side.

...use 'lol' or 'haha'? I used to be strictly 'hahaha' and couldn't stand LOL but after having a baby, I found that 'lol' was MUCH easier to type with one hand. So, now I use both.

...change your phone case often or keep the same one on at all times? I have a bit of a phone case addiction. I have a battery case, a few plain cases in diff colors and a Bandolier crossbody case. It's something I'm working on.

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...eat cupcakes for breakfast? I did today. Don't look at me like that. They (2) were leftovers from Owen's birthday and in my defense, I didn't want him to see them and want one. Or two. I'm gonna pretend the calories don't count when it means saving my child from a sugar high/crash. Plus, they were soooo good with coffee.

...drive around forever, looking for a parking spot before you'll fork over $ to park in a garage? I don't. I prefer convenience and less stress. Parking lots also make me nervous af and I don't know why. People just seem so unpredictable in them - whether they're walking or driving. I prefer to just park and get the hell out of the car.

...have a go-to playlist? If so, who's on it? I've never been great at playlists but I think I'm getting better. I used to have, like, a Carrie Underwood song right after a Death Cab for Cutie song and it was not conducive to creating a vibe or mood. I'd be all chill and reflective and then suddenly I'm jolted into a song about binging on tequila and getting hitched in Vegas. It was very confusing. But, now - I put more thought into it, especially for the trips upstate.

...believe in signs from loved ones who've passed on and angels and psychic mediums? I do. All of it. Honestly, I don't understand people who say "I don't believe in that stuff" and it's like OK I get it but why do you have to be sooo negative about it? They're always trying to tell believers it's not real and it's like I'm not trying to tell them it's real so what gives with the pessimistic attitude? They're probably never fun at parties. In fact, I know of one person like that and I can tell you he's literally never fun at parties. Annoying? Yes. Fun? Never. I just personally have had experiences that can't really be explained otherwise and it's a super comforting way to feel.

Similar to cupcakes for breakfast. *shrug*

Hi. Smile. Thank.

I saw these three words taped to all of the cash registers in my local supermarket, as a reminder to the cashiers. And, it made me feel weird. I didn't really know what it made me feel at first, but it definitely shocked me, initially, for a couple reasons.

1) Why do people need to be reminded to say 'hi' and 'thank you' to customers?

 Shove it.

Shove it.

2) SMILE? Really? I cannot stand it. I absolutely loathe being told to smile. When I worked for a supermarket in high school, in the 90s, I was never told I had to smile. I was told I had to be polite. Period. Good customer service. Period. When I worked for hospitals and medical practices, I was often told by older male patients whose surgery I was scheduling that I "should smile more." I'd be like, I'm sorry. I'm busy focusing on scheduling your cardiac clearance and making sure you understand you cannot take aspirin/ibufprofen within two weeks of your surgery date and YES THAT INCLUDES ALEVE COME ON but hold on let me pause and give you a smile like I'm trying to sell you a new suit. *eyeroll*

Back to the signs.

I have to be honest and tell you I couldn't care less if the cashier at a supermarket is smiling at me. I appreciate a 'hello, how are you?' but I truly care more that they don't squish my bread/eggs if I'm not bagging myself. I don't think you have to be smiling in order to provide good, efficient customer service. AND - I also know that if I worked there and found those annoying, degrading reminders staring me in the face during my shift, I'd smile a helluva lot less.

In fact, I'm thinking of reaching out to the store to let them know that as a customer, I find those signs ridiculous. Thoughts?