Decaf is not difficult


"Is this decaf" I asked, as the Dunkin' Donuts drive-thru employee handed me my iced coffee.

"No...did you want decaf?"

*silent sigh* "Yes, I ordered decaf."

She checks the order slip and verifies that I indeed ordered decaf. About a minute later, and with some grumbling between employees behind the drive-thru window, I'm handed my correct coffee order...and made to feel like I'm 'that annoying customer' again.

As I drive away, I shake my head thinking about how often this happens -- whether it's at a drive-thru or the counter. I also think about how many times I haven't double-checked, only to drink my coffee and start to feel sick and shaky, realizing it was, in fact, not decaf.

Yes, I realize there is some small amount of caffeine in decaf, something like 3%. I don't drink decaf to be difficult, or because I want to. I've told you about this before, but ever since having Owen, I've had a very low tolerance to caffeine IF I drink it on an empty stomach/first thing in the morning. The afternoon seems to be OK - in which I often opt for an iced dirty chai latte from Starbucks if I'm in the mood.

Why can’t DD and other coffee shops/diners/whatever get this right? If you offer decaf, and if a customer orders it, it's not an option if you want to give it to them or not. Would they give a customer a chicken sandwich if they ordered a hamburger?

Fun fact: When I worked weddings at a country club, we would always serve decaf to the guests during cake time because...time for you to get tired and go home. Suckers!

Anyway, let me explain what happens if I am mistakenly given regular coffee when I order decaf. This recently happened when I was in Albany visiting my mom, and we stopped at a DD before heading to a home decor store with Owen. I noticed my cup wasn't marked decaf, but the employee assured me it was. OK, cool, I thought. We got to the store and I started to feel shaky, sweaty and dizzy. I felt nauseated, and my head started to ache. I immediately knew it wasn't decaf. So, I threw the rest (about half) of the coffee out, pounded a water I had with me, and just powered through it until it was out of my system, thanks to multiple trips to the restroom in the store. Is it life-threatening? No. Is it annoying? Yes.

Am I insane for continuing to go back and trusting that they'll give me my correct order? Maybe. And, you may be thinking that I'm not "getting anything out of" drinking decaf. But, that's not true. It's refreshing, I like the taste and it does offer the perfect amount of pick-me-up. And, when I'm out and about in the morning/mid-morning, it's often a welcome stop, especially if Owen passes out in the car.

So, I'll continue my fight for the right to decaf. Besides, if they're taking my money, I should get what I want, amiright or amiright?

(I'm right.)

Quickie: Babies in bars?



I came across a friend tweeting about people who bring their baby to a bar. It brought up a topic I've gotten pretty passionate about over the years, and my stance has changed only somewhat since I've become a mom.

I believe there are kid-friendly places, kid-acceptable places...and then there are some places where kids should not be allowed. Bars are one of them, I think -- but only at night. I don't see anything wrong with a tot hangin' out with mom and dad during brunch/lunch/a festival/whatever.

But, at night, it just feels like a different crowd. Because, people go to bars to let loose, have fun and be a little careless -- perhaps even leaving their responsibilities out of mind for a bit. When there's a baby strapped to a beer-drinking mom or dad, it's hard to forget about your own kids back at home/with the sitter.


OR -- maybe it makes some people drink more when they see a baby, who knows?! And then maybe they forget their birth control and BAM -- more babies/future customers.

Mm-hmm. These baby bars are onto something, aren't they.

Also - this post on nails it. While some bars enforce a "last call for babies" -- no babies after 8 p.m. -- bars are just so dirty. Not to mention, people can get pretty rowdy and accidentally throw an elbow now and then.

So, I think if you're absolutely dying for an adult night out for some drinks at a bar but don't have a babysitter...stay home. *shrug* Welcome to parenting!

Peanut butter in public?!

 image via cafemom

image via cafemom

Whenever I make a Target run, I always pack a lunch or snack for my busy 20-month-old, because it makes shopping less hectic when he's content sitting in a cart. Sometimes, his lunch includes a PB sandwich, folded in half.

I'm not a germophobe, but I do bring my own disinfectant wipes to wipe down the shopping cart before and after returning it to the cart corral. Because...people are gross. People wipe their noses with their hands, sneeze, cough and so do their kids riding in the cart, including mine. Flu season was awful, so...better safe than sorry. I also realize that by doing this, I'm ensuring that I've removed any grossness and/or peanut butter that lingers on the cart, in case the next user - kid or adult - has an allergy.

A mom was recently shamed and attacked online for giving her daughter a PB sandwich in a Target cart. Apparently, a stranger approached her in the store and when the mom took to the Internet for opinion...the flood gates opened. This mom was called "disgusting", "inconsiderate" and - my personal favorite - "a hillbilly." Here's the thread on Urban Baby. That hillbilly comment came from someone who says she would prefer to feed her child in the car rather than a shopping cart, by the way. Perhaps she also thinks breastfeeding should be done in the bathroom, I don't know.

Anyway, my personal opinion on this is simple - if your child has allergies, and you’re worried about shopping carts, please bring disinfectant wipes and take it upon yourself to make sure the cart is clear for your child. Why are you relying on strangers? Not everyone is going to do what you want in life, and I've seen lots of parents return the carts without cleaning them, so why do you trust that stranger before you didn't have/eat peanut butter? I don't mean to sound harsh, but I do think it just takes some common sense. Yes, I realize allergies can be deadly. So can the flu, especially to children. WIPE DOWN THE CART. So many stores offer wipes at their entrance for this reason.

Now, let's talk about mom-shaming. Stop it. Why do we do this?! This mom was asking for opinions on the topic - not what you think of her as a person or a mother. Honestly. I admit - I've been rather judgy of some moms before I became a mother myself, but once I did - MY GOD. Talk about humility. I repent my past mom-shaming sins, nod my head and high-five you for however you get through the day, mommas. So, I just don’t get the hate and shame. 

No, I don't know what it's like to have a child who has a peanut allergy. And, after hearing about this mom, I wonder what my "reaction" would be if a stranger approached me and my child in a store.

Maybe one day I'll find out.