Update on Beth/Peter/Amy

Most people (83%, approx.) felt that Peter (and Amy, by association) made a mistake when it came to not letting Beth know about Peter’s business trip and arranging for cohabiting girlfriend Amy to be their children’s caregiver while he was away.

But, Beth was pissed at me. Why?

Well, for starters — she knows I’m a ride-or-die person. If I love you, I will have your back no matter what…but sometimes I’ll also offer what I think you can do to make whatever situation you’re in better for yourself. And, I think Beth should be the one to initiate a relationship with Amy. I mean, at the very least — as a mom, having a relationship with the woman who will be around your kids when you’re not (AKA something you just cannot control), is simply a smart thing to do. And, Beth was offended by my suggestion she take the wheel.

Don’t get it twisted, though. I think Peter was an A-hole for not calling Beth and letting him know he would be out of town. And, I’m sorry — Amy has to take some responsibility, too. She signed up for this. Are there going to be awkward times? Yep. But, no one can have all the fun with no work. And that’s why I think Amy missed a golden opportunity to show Beth she’s thinking of the best interest of the kids, and not just her relationship with Peter.

Aaaand…what if something happened to the kids while Peter was away and that’s how Beth found out Amy was in charge? That’s not good for anyone trying to build a blended family, not to mention trust, and I don’t know why Amy would want to carry the weight of that risk on her shoulders.

Anyway.

Beth, Peter and Amy had a meeting and discussed what to do the next time a situation like this arises. Apologies were handed out freely and Beth and Amy even agreed to work on a relationship together, starting with an invitation from Beth for a casual lunch in a couple weeks. (I’m not gonna say I told you so)

During our talks about this, Beth did say to me, “why did you ask who was ‘wrong’ in your post”, even though she certainly agreed with the outcome of the poll being in her favor. But, she also added, “We are new at this co-parenting thing. You’ve been a mom for 2.5 years and I would never say anything you do is WRONG.”

Well, damn. Touché. She’s right. I told her I was wrong for using that word. And that’s why Beth and I are friends…it allllll balances out and gets back on track to move forward.

Just like family.