Eat, drink and be married (whenever you want)

This is vanessa, looking down on a lot of married people

This is vanessa, looking down on a lot of married people

I noticed a flurry of Facebook and blog posts in retaliation to this blog post entitled "23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Engaged Before You're 23." And, annoying and erroneous title capitalization aside - I can see why the author ticked some 20-something engaged folks off.

I mean, the author, a 22-year-old LA girl named Vanessa, who recently moved to China for some reason or another (she doesn't really say why - just that she did it because she "believes in risks, faith, and tequila"), goes on a tirade about engagement announcement Facebook posts, and how they subconsciously make her think she too, should be getting married, and that something must be wrong with her because she's not...but then she calms down (perhaps with the aid of tequila?) and realizes:

"I’m fucking awesome.  It literally isn’t me, it’s them."


Honey, it's always you. Because that's all you can control. But, you'll learn that as you grow up and date more. Perhaps you could do that in China!

Here's my thoughts on young people getting married, if you care.

Everyone is different. Everyone falls in love at different ages. That's all. Sorry if you were expecting some long rant. But, come on, it's common sense. Oh, and Vanessa blah-blah-blathered on about some divorce statistic. IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.


I also can't help but throw this fluffy idea out to you: Just like how fashion trends repeat themselves...what if marriage trends do, too? What if the let's-stay-married-forever strength that our grandparents had/have, comes back for this generation, who has tired of divorce? What if their parents divorced, and they're hyper-aware of the consequences because they LIVED them, so they fight harder for their own marriage?

I feel like I just blew your mind. While you recover, here are some super intelligent tidbits from Vanessa:

"There are a few bumps in the road currently…I’m just broke, have no money, and I’m poor. I don’t speak Mandarin (a dialect of Chinese) nor do I know how to read Chinese characters."

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"Because at the age of 22, I have no idea who I am, what I’m doing, and who I’ll be doing it with for the next year… let alone for the rest of my life.  And that’s awesome."

She calls it "The Facebook."

A couple of her "things to do before getting engaged..." are: Start a band, make out with a stranger, disappoint your parents, hang out naked in front of a window and watch Girls over and over again.

I cannot stop cringe-laughing. Well, I have just one thing for Vanessa to do before she turns 23: Get to the level of self-esteem where people's life choices don't force you to question your own.

And stop watching Girls. It's awful.

I can't help but find it ironic (and hypocritical) that Vanessa says, about her 'just-because' move to China: " This entire experience is somewhat of a leap of faith for me; a leap of faith in myself and in the universe."

Isn't that sort of what falling in love is like?

Hǎo yùn, Vanessa. Hǎo yùn. (Pssst...that means 'good luck')